Most of us think we can forgive and forget; we just don’t want the other person to forget that we forgave them. That is only partial forgiveness and certainly not forgetting. Reminding someone overtly or covertly is a form of control. One of the truest signs to me that I have genuinely forgiven someone, is the memory of it all begins to fade. Over time what happened becomes a distant memory and my forgiveness is made more complete by forgetting.

Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note,
torn in two, and burned up,
so that it never can be shown against one.
Henry Ward Beecher