When asked if I need help my usual response is “no”, even though often I actually could use assistance. While in pain, physically or emotionally, when someone inquires about my well-being the typical response is “I’m fine” even when I am far from it. A friend can call and wake me up when I’m taking a nap and ask “did I wake you up?” and almost always my reply is something like “I was about to get up anyway” or “I was just dozing” although I was sound asleep. Whenever I “minimize, alter, or deny how I truly feel” the dysfunction of codependence is controlling me. Getting past feelings of not being worthy, difficulty asking for help and expressing my needs openly is not easy, but effort to alter that behavior has improved my behavior quite a bit. Slowly but surely, it is consistent effort by which one’s life can change for the better.
All the concepts about stepping out of your comfort zone
mean nothing until you decide that your essential purpose,
vision and goals are more important than your self-imposed limitations.