Are you in a Codependent Relationship?

Posted by James Browning on February 27, 2014
Posted in: Controlling Others, Dysfunctional relationships, Giving too much. Tagged: , , .

woman-with-megaphone022If you’re in a codependent relationship with a controlling or needy woman, you might find that the relationship is especially restrictive. Some common traits of these relationships include:

  • You have to always let her know where you are
  • When you’re out, you have to speak on the phone multiple times a day
  • You are discouraged from keeping female friends
  • She takes an active dislike of some of your friends and/or family, and feels offended that you would have them as part of your life
  • She attempts to control your internet usage, or monitors your email and other online communications (Facebook, etc.)
  • She shows excessive jealousy
  • She has difficulty letting petty issues go, and insists that you both talk about them at length
  • She mistrusts you and casts a suspicious eye, even if you’ve done nothing wrong
  • She’s often critical of your behavior
  • You find yourself often “walking on eggshells” around her
  • Your friends tell you that you shouldn’t put up with her, but you feel the need to stay
  • You can’t speak your mind because you’re too afraid of how she’ll react
  • You’ve considered breaking up for a long time, but you don’t want to break her heart
  • You feel that she may not be able to live without you, or you’ve tried to break up and she threatened drastic action (quitting her job, hurting herself, etc.)

These are just a few possible indicators of a codependent relationship, and by no means is an exhaustive list. Relationships should be places of comfort and acceptance, and they should be avenues to expanding your horizons, not restricting them. Relationships should add joy to one’s life, and though they often hit rough patches, a relationship shouldn’t be a constant burden. Codependent relationships can be so stressful and restrictive that the men involved often reach a boiling point, blowing-up at their partner. It’s like a release valve, and after the pressure dissipates a bit, they fall right back into the pattern. By Michael S. Freeman http://ezinearticles.com/?Men,-Are-You-in-a-Codependent-Relationship-With-a-Needy,-Controlling,-Or-Emotionally-Volatile-Woman?&id=2220700

Women always worry
about the things
that men forget;
men always worry
about the things
women remember.
Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings