Male Codependence

…you are not alone.

  • About Codependent Men
  • Codependence Patterns & Characteristics
  • Codependency Self Assessment
  • Links & Books

Replace Running Away

Posted by James Browning on October 19, 2013
Posted in: Addiction, Denial, Seeing Myself Clearly. Tagged: emotional wounds, screwing up, self control.

Running awayIf your usage of a substance like alcohol or drugs, or habit like excessive shopping or sports-watching, ever prompted someone you love to say to you, “Too much,” listen up. The biggest mistake people make with addictions, alcohol and otherwise, is that they deny that they are over-doing it. They get defensive. They insist “I’m only drinking so much because …” They claim, “You do it too..” or “Everyone drinks like that..” They minimize, “I just drink….” Denial is tempting, and extremely self-defeating. Resist this temptation, and you have a chance at averting the potentially marriage-threatening consequences of an addiction that you persist in sustaining. The remedy: Take your loved one’s concern seriously. Seriously reassess your habit. Ask yourself, “If I look at my drinking in the best possible light, what is it meant to accomplish?” If the answer is that drinking enables you to escape from stresses in your life, it’s time to face those stresses head on. Addictions usually are an alternative to addressing and resolving problems, marital and otherwise. Replace running away with talking about your problems with someone you trust. By clinical psychologist, marriage counselor and author Susan Heitler, Ph.D. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201110/resisting-the-3-main-temptations-destroy-marriages

Sometimes I feel
as if I’m racing
with my own shadow…
But that’s one thing
I’ll never be able to outrun.
Nobody can shake off
their own shadow.
Haruki Murakami

Share this:

  • Share
  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Email
  • Print
  • Pinterest
  • Tumblr

Like this:

Like Loading...

Related

Posts navigation

← Erodes and Corrodes a Child
It’s a Mad World →
  • Recent Posts

    • Macho Bravado and Unadulterated BS
    • Saved For Something Better
    • Living Outside Myself
    • Dysfunctional Families
    • How To End A Romance
  • Search Site

  • Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

  • Blogroll

    • Broken Hearts Anonymous
    • Good Morning Gratitude
    • Love Letter Daily
  • Archives

    • December 2016
    • November 2016
    • April 2016
    • March 2016
    • February 2015
    • November 2014
    • August 2014
    • July 2014
    • June 2014
    • May 2014
    • April 2014
    • March 2014
    • February 2014
    • January 2014
    • December 2013
    • November 2013
    • October 2013
    • September 2013
    • August 2013
    • July 2013
    • June 2013
    • May 2013
    • April 2013
    • March 2013
    • February 2013
    • January 2013
    • December 2012
    • November 2012
    • October 2012
    • September 2012
    • August 2012
    • July 2012
    • June 2012
    • May 2012
    • April 2012
    • March 2012
    • December 2011
  • Categories

    • 12 step meetings
    • Abuse
    • Accepting "what is"
    • Accurate self-view
    • Addiction
    • Aging
    • Anger
    • Anxiety
    • Appropriate Behavior
    • Asking for help
    • Boundaries
    • Caretaking
    • Change
    • Childhood
    • Choices
    • Committed relationships
    • Communication
    • Compulsion
    • Control
    • Controlling
    • Controlling Others
    • Courage
    • Denial
    • Depression
    • Destiny and fate
    • Divorce
    • Dysfunctional relationships
    • Emotions
    • Enjoyment
    • Faithfulness
    • Family of origin
    • Family problems
    • Fear
    • Feelings
    • Fighting
    • Forgiveness
    • Freedom
    • Gambling
    • Gender differences
    • Getting Better
    • Giving too much
    • Grief
    • Growth
    • Guilt
    • Happiness
    • Healing
    • Heartbreak
    • Helping others
    • Higher Power
    • Honesty
    • Imperfection
    • Infidelity
    • Intimacy
    • Jealousy
    • Judgmental
    • Learning From the Past
    • Living in "Now"
    • Loneliness
    • Love
    • Love addiction
    • Lying
    • Marriage
    • Mistakes
    • Narcissism
    • Needy
    • Not Good Enough
    • Obession
    • Old Age
    • Pain
    • Parental Abuse
    • Parenting
    • People
    • Pleasing others
    • Projection
    • Reason
    • Recovery
    • Rejection
    • relationships
    • Religion
    • Resentment
    • Respect
    • Romantic Love
    • Sad
    • Secrets
    • Seeing clearly
    • Seeing Myself Clearly
    • Self Care
    • Self Destructive
    • Self Esteem
    • Self Image
    • Selfish
    • Sex
    • Shame
    • Sorrow
    • Spaking up
    • Stress
    • Supression
    • Symptoms of codependence
    • The Future
    • The Past
    • Therapy
    • Trust
    • Truth
    • Try Again
    • Uncategorized
    • Understanding
    • Unfaithful
    • Unhealthy Relationship
    • Wants and Desires
    • Worry
  • Meta

    • Register
    • Log in
    • Entries feed
    • Comments feed
    • WordPress.com
Blog at WordPress.com.
  • Follow Following
    • Male Codependence
    • Join 195 other followers
    • Already have a WordPress.com account? Log in now.
    • Male Codependence
    • Customize
    • Follow Following
    • Sign up
    • Log in
    • Copy shortlink
    • Report this content
    • View post in Reader
    • Manage subscriptions
    • Collapse this bar
 

Loading Comments...
 

You must be logged in to post a comment.

    %d bloggers like this: