Male Codependence

We are all consumed with our feelings; we focus on what is wrong with THEM. We are hearing what we are saying, and not what they are saying. Thus, we are solving the problem with you, instead of joining with the other person and solving it TOGETHER. I mean, you are dating another person aren’t you? So why don’t you involve them in your conversations? “Well, they won’t listen to what I have to say.” Could this be because you say the same thing far too much? From personal experience, you will never go far in your relationships if you are “nagging” your partner to death. Another reason that they aren’t listening to anything you say, is because what you are saying frankly isn’t important. If you are one of those people who point out every “defect” in a human, then most likely they tuned you out a long time ago. You must first take a look at yourself and realize that you are not Miss./Mr. Perfect. You have problems, you have issues, just like everyone else does. Your relationships will go far if you’ll stop bringing attention to the minor things that really don’t make that big of a difference. On the other side, if your partner is not listening to you, than there could be something seriously wrong there. Ultimately, the lack of attention narrows down to a lack of respect. You must have respect for the person that you are in a relationship with, and they must have respect for you. If no respect is involved, than you will both be looking at each other as if each of you is less than the other. Respect is something that is so important in every aspect of life. A lack of respect equals a lack of communication, which in turn equals the beginning of the end of your relationship. You must give in order to receive. In order to obtain respect from someone, you must show them that you are respect worthy. You can’t just sit there and expect them to automatically respect you. You must show them. How? Prove to them that you are a loyal and honest individual. Be yourself, don’t lie, and treat them as you would like to be treated. If that doesn’t gain their respect, than something is seriously wrong with them. By Prior Aphter http://voices.yahoo.com/why-relationships-fail-due-lack-communication-10023.html?cat=41

When men and women
are able to respect
and accept their
differences then
love has a chance
to blossom.
John Gray