Male Codependence

One of the most important things to remember is that your partner is with you for a reason and not with his or her ex. The past is the past. It can’t be undone. The future is what matters. Be honest and open with your partner and usually everything will be fine in the relationship. Don’t compare your partner to your ex. Don’t talk about your ex very much. It makes you sound like you are still in love with them. Don’t call your ex unless it is business related. Don’t call your partners ex to ask questions about your partner or to start trouble. Don’t listen to his or her voice mail on the cell phone. It will only get make matters worse. Let your partner have privacy unless you suspect something weird is going on. Don’t go through your partners stuff unless you ask him or her first. Remember Please Don’t go through their stuff just to be snoopy because that indicates that you don’t trust him or her or just being paranoid. From an Yahoo article by Shelly K. http://voices.yahoo.com/dont-let-ex-threaten-current-relationship-13874.html?cat=41

Such is the inconsistency of real love,
that it is always awake to suspicion,
however unreasonable;
always requiring new assurances
from the object of its interest.
Ann Radcliffe