Male Codependence

Controlling behavior in men or women becomes a habit and it becomes as normal as getting up in the morning and changing out of pajamas. Conflict between two people is bound to happen. After all, what a boring world it would be if everyone agreed all the time. Unfortunately, people who try to resolve conflict by controlling the other person only set the relationship up for failure. Sure, peace permeates throughout the household for a while simply because the man of the house says, “Just agree to disagree and do what I say.” To keep the peace, the woman acquiesces and keeps her mouth closed even though her mind is reeling the entire time. Don’t be fooled into thinking that the women who allow men to continue controlling them are wimps, poor misguided fools, or women who don’t know the true meaning of life. They are nothing of the sort, even if they do maintain some semblance of being less than in control of their own life. Be honest with yourself and admit that there have been times when you, too, have closed your mouth and prevented it from speaking the true words of wisdom you wanted to utter aloud. Sometimes it just isn’t worth the aggravation or frustration of disagreeing out loud just for the sake of disagreeing. After all, controlling people never give in and never admit to being the controlling type. There really isn’t any point to disagreeing with controlling men because you will only accomplish one of three possible scenarios. First, your words of disagreement lead to a full-scale verbal assault that ends with you in tears. Second, your disagreement with his opinion leads to a long night’s harangue centered on your inability to understand common sense, simple concepts, or whatever else comes to mind. Third, you realize that you really only have three options marriage counseling, returning to the status quo, or divorce. From an article by Susan Keenan http://www.lifescript.com/life/relationships/marriage/controlling_men.aspx#sthash.yJArt6eB.dpuf

To be unbroken,
what would that be?
If words that were spoken,
had not shattered me
Zoegirl