Male Codependence

A glance across a crowded room, a chance encounter, stolen kisses in the night, a wisp of heady cologne, and a stolen rendezvous on a crowded weekend have all climaxed into a committed relationship. It seems as though the fates have been controlling the destiny of women for years and leading them to their men. Unfortunately, some women have discovered their Prince Charming is not quite so charming, but rather is among the select group of controlling men who not only control their own lives, but also, those of women. Controlling men like to be in charge. They like to tell women what to do, what to wear, how to speak, and even when to speak. Most controlling men do not admit to the fact that they are controlling. They just don’t see it. In their minds, men like to have things a certain way. They probably grew up thinking that things should be a certain way, partly because of the manner in which they were raised. Some women grew up thinking that little girls get married wait on their husbands hand and foot, bear children, and raise children. On the other hand, some men grew up looking at it in this manner: “girls grow up to do what their husbands tell them to do. They stay home, clean the house, raise the kids, and worship their men.” It isn’t really that farfetched to see how this mind-set in men might lead to controlling behavior. After all, just because today’s woman is out in the world earning her own slab of bacon, doesn’t mean that the expectation that men are stronger, more dominant and hence more controlling got tossed out the door. From an article by Susan Keenan published at http://www.lifescript.com/life/relationships/marriage/controlling_men.aspx#sthash.yJArt6eB.dpuf

But even when I stop crying, even when
we fall asleep and I’m nestled in his arms,
this will leave another scar. No one will see it.
No one will know. But it will be there.
And eventually all of the scars will have scars,
and that’s all I’ll be – one big scar of a love gone wrong.
From “But I Love Him” by Amanda Grace