Male Codependence

THEY DON’T UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY FEEL: Think about falling in love. Really think about it for a minute. It is exhilarating. It can make you feel so alive! It can make you smile even in your sleep. But let’s be honest: falling in love is often scary, too. It’s scary because the emotions are so intense and so overwhelming that it’s hard to sort them all out. It can be so confusing to fall in love. If you don’t understand what you feel, your natural instinct is to hide from those feelings. If you see something you don’t like, your natural instinct is to shield your eyes. If you taste something you don’t like, your instinct is to spit it out! That’s a pretty graphic example, but you get the picture. When a man is afraid of his emotions, the first thing he does is trying to hide them away in a little closet far away from his heart. Getting over this reason to hide his feelings takes time. It takes some courage, too. But he can do it with plenty of reassurance from you. The more open you are, the more likely he will eventually talk about what he feels. And once he’s talking about it, he will understand it. http://relationshipabode.wordpress.com/2011/12/24/why-men-hide-their-feelings/

Feelings are not
supposed to be logical.
Dangerous is the man
who has rationalized
his emotions.
David Borenstein