You feel that you’re responsible for her, and it’s your job to make her happy and solve her problems. You suppress your emotions and avoid confrontation. You have the sense of sacrificing the life you want so that you can be with her and take care of her. You feel trapped at times, and have the sense that you are planning an eventual escape. You feel tremendous guilt at the thought of abandoning her She is extremely jealous and makes it difficult for you to interact with other females or have female friends. She has an intense fear of rejection and abandonment. She lives her life in way that depends on you for many of her needs, as opposed to being independent and having a variety of fulfilling relationships. She has expressed that she wouldn’t be able to live her life if you betrayed or abandoned her. She depends almost exclusively on you as her source of happiness and validation. She dominates and manipulates you through her emotional response, which is often too extreme. Being in a codependent relationship makes for a stressful and unhappy lifestyle. And yet, your avoidant tendencies may keep you from following through with a break up or separation. You may be planning to break up for a long time, but you just keep holding off — many men wait years, or even a lifetime, remaining in such a relationship. It’s important that you don’t dwell on planning, and you take certain actions, fast. If you feel ready to begin the separation process, DO NOT hesitate: The longer you wait, and the more time you both invest, the more difficult it becomes. http://www.codependencyfreedom.com/codependency/for-men-11-signs-youre-in-a-codependent-relationship-and-how-to-get-out.html
We are not trapped by our thoughts.
What we generally do, however,
is create thoughts that trap us.
Joshua David Stone