7. Steer clear of the self-help section. Bookstore shelves are crammed with books that say, “This is your fault. You created this situation by the way you thought, or by carrying forward childhood wounds,” Piver [Susan Piver in her book, The Wisdom of a Broken Heart”] says. But that’s not true. “Don’t try to come up with reasons on why it happened and how to prevent it from happening again. Allow yourself to feel heartbreak—that’s what actually gets us over it.”
8. Give love. Perhaps at no other time than post-breakup do we want love so much, Piver says. But instead of desperately searching, give love, to anyone, in any situation. “There’s always a chance of loving,” Piver says. “That is how you balance the sorrow and rage from the heartbreak you’re dealing with—by giving love to whatever situation or person you are interacting with. That is the secret.” By Deborah Kotz, Angela Haupt http://health.usnews.com/health-news/articles/2012/03/22/8-steps-to-mend-a-broken-heart
“More men commit suicide over a lost relationship than women do,” Jean Cirillo, PhD, a psychotherapist and consultant to TV reality shows in Long Island, N.Y., tells WebMD. “It’s harder for them, when they have formed an attachment, to leave on terms other than their own.” “Women take a breakup easier,” syndicated columnist and psychologist Joyce Brothers, PhD, tells WebMD. “Women are more tuned to their feelings and know it’s coming. It doesn’t hit them like a ton of bricks. “Also,” Brothers notes, “women have more people to talk to, their hairdresser, aunt, even a taxi driver. “Women get over a breakup — but never get over comparing themselves to the woman the guy ends up with.” [Elayne Savage, PhD, a relationship coach] says that your past history and age can be a gauge of how much a breakup hurts and how long the recovery period will be. “Hurts stockpile over the years,” she says. “You feel victimized if you are the dumpee,” she adds. “It hurts more if you are the victim.” But, “Just because two people can’t get along, Cirillo says, “doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with either of them.” http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/how-to-fix-broken-heart
Love never dies a natural death….
Love dies because we don’t know how
to replenish its source. Love dies of
blindness and errors and betrayals.
Love dies of illness and wounds;
it dies of weariness, of witherings,
of tarnishing. A. Nin