Male Codependence

Remain in Control… You have to be the cool-headed and that takes patience and the ability to step back from the situation. Take a deep breath and look at things with a calm head. An occasional argument may help settle things, constant bickering or flying off the handle will only further downgrade your relationship. If there’s something your spouse has to work through help them by presenting your case in a calm and logical manner. If you can, stay around positive people. Those who tend to think negatively will usually bring you down with them. You’re treading water and the last thing you need is someone tossing you an anchor. Professional Help… There comes a time when talking to a third-party can help vent frustrations in a constructive manner. If your spouse doesn’t realize the pain they’re causing you, an uninvolved person may be able to help them see how their behavior affects those closest to them. If it’s determined your mate needs one on one time encourage them to get the help they need. Leave… If all else fails and you feel as though you’ve tried your best – leave. If, at any time, you feel in physical danger pack it up and go somewhere safe. Otherwise when you feel that your life raft is constantly being deflated and you’re out of breath it may be time to call it quits. You can hang on and try to influence them or wait for things to get better but true change comes within an individual. But it does happen. People and circumstances do change for the better and hopefully you can be there to help. But, in the end, it’s your call. By Cindy Abbate http://www.helium.com/items/2341232-how-to-deal-with-a-demanding-spouse

More marriages might survive
if the partners realized
that sometimes the better
comes after the worse.
Doug Larson