Male Codependence

Keep Perspective. Give yourself a pep talk and take positive action. Circumstances vary but perhaps there’s an underlying cause to your spouse’s negativity. It could be anything from a traumatic event in childhood to difficulties at work. Do things that have a positive effect either on you or the home. Maybe taking some extra time to prepare healthy meals, or clean up clutter that’s been around forever or lose those few pounds you’ve been wanting to will inspire your spouse to have a more productive outlook. It can be difficult but remember that it can’t feel good to behave in that manner. Keep some sympathy in your heart and be ready to listen when they’re ready to talk. Remain true to yourself . Allowing yourself to be pulled under the waters of despair will not help the problem instead it will only cause you to have negative feelings and eventually erode your self-image. Don’t allow your spouse to downgrade your values. There are certain issues that are near and dear to your heart. When it comes to those stand your ground even if it means an argument. If it does go to a verbal fight keep to the subject at hand, don’t allow the conversation to wander unto past hurts. Sometimes clearing the air helps. By Cindy Abbate http://www.helium.com/items/2341232-how-to-deal-with-a-demanding-spouse