Most people want to help people, to be seen as helpful, and to do good things. Good intentions are not enough. We need to understand our reasons why we are helping someone and we need to understand the effect of our actions. When we help others, we need to ask ourselves—are our “helping” actions truly helping the other person? We may realize we have a Helping Addiction when despite the evidence that our “helping” is not truly helping the other person, we are compelled to continue to try to help them. Signs we have a helping addiction:
– You realize your efforts to help someone are not changing the other person’s life for the better and you continue to attempt to help.
– You feel compelled to repeated pick up the pieces for someone who calls you when they are in an emergency.
– You notice people you are attempting to help consistently are unable to manage their time, resources and energy
– You notice a person or the people you are attempting to help become increasingly demanding of your help.
– You feel guilty when you are not the person to help someone—even if they receive help from someone else who is more qualified to help.
If we are addicted to helping others, we need help ourselves. We aren’t helping anyone and we are hurting ourselves if we are “helping” someone too much. Helping ourselves is a matter of getting in touch with our thoughts and feelings associated with helping others. http://sueb.hubpages.com/hub/Helping-Too-Much
Give a man a fish
and he eats for a day
Teach a man to fish
and he eats for a life time
Chinese Proverb
Male Codependence 
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