Codependency comes in many forms. One aspect is doing for others what they should and need to do for themselves. It may make the other person feel good for the moment, and us important, but it keeps them over-dependent on us. This kind of relationship is extremely unhealthy. Another aspect of codependency is rescuing people from the logical consequences of their negative behavior patterns. This, too, keeps them immature and over-dependent on us. Furthermore, as long as we’re covering for them, why do they need to take care of themselves, resolve their problems and recover? They don’t. For every alcoholic (or other addict), who is already over-dependent on his alcohol, they say there are four codependent enablers supporting him and his addiction. As long as they are doing this, he never has to get better. If he refuses to acknowledge his issue, get into a recovery program, and resolve his problem, there comes a time when those who are enabling him need to say enough is enough! They need to exercise tough love, quit protecting him or her, get out of the way, and let him crash! By Richard Innes http://www.actsweb.org/articles/article.php?c=5&d=2&i=1105
Love yourself enough to say no.
Stop telling yourself that this is
your last chance at love,
that nobody else will ever want you,
that you can’t imagine loving anyone
the way you love them.
Kemmy Nola
