Knowing how codependency manifests in your own life is not a good enough reason to end a bad relationship. In fact, knowledge will never be enough motivation to do so. The motivation has to come from your gut, your pain. You’ll need to be pushed and pricked and shoved so hard — that you finally recognize how toxic the situation is. And the only way to recognize that, is through your anger. In order to end a codependent relationship, you need to be intimately connected to your anger. Codependency comes from believing that you need to be connected to a dysfunctional person that treats you in dysfunctional ways — for whatever reason. And it comes from being so sure that you can’t lay down a boundary because if you do, the sky will fall and you can forget about ever being happy again. Your anger gives you the fuel to reclaim yourself after you’ve continually given yourself away. Anger… is nature’s signal that a boundary has been encroached upon, or violated. When you listen to your anger, form a bond with it, and work with it — you naturally pay more attention to your boundaries or lack of them. And you set and maintain healthy boundaries to protect yourself. And guess what? That kind of behavior is the complete opposite of codependency. http://mindfulconstruct.com/2010/07/09/end-a-codependent-relationship-the-healthy-way/
It’s time to care;
it’s time to take responsibility;
it’s time to lead;
it’s time for a change;
it’s time to be true to our greatest self;
it’s time to stop blaming others.
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