Projection occurs when you see split-off parts of yourself in other people, and don’t recognize them in yourself. If for instance, you repress your anger and always try to be soothing or agreeable, you will experience yourself as a pleasant person. The people you interact with, however, may experience your anger in subtle ways. They may notice your tight jaw, frowning brows, pointed remarks, tense body posture or sharp tone of voice. Projection is complicated by the fusion of codependency and the inability to feel and act separate from other people. By seeing in others the very qualities that you refuse to acknowledge in yourself, you can avoid taking responsibility for your own feelings and for taking charge of your life. …the more they are ignored or denied, the more strength they gain.
To regret one’s own experiences
is to arrest one’s own development.
To deny one’s own experiences
is to put a lie into the lips of one’s own life.
It is no less than a denial of the soul.