Codependents don’t necessarily know what they are feeling at any given time as they go on who is around them and what they are feeling. They can be obsessive and terribly anxious about others problems and worry about the silliest of things. There is an amount of denial with codependents that “things aren’t quite as bad as they appear” or “they exaggerate and are worse than you’d think”. Codependents many times will overeat, overwork, spend money excessively, lie to themselves and others about the smallest of things. Codependents don’t trust other people. They think others have abandoned them and why should they extend trust to others who do such a thing. They also have distorted thinking and are either on one end of a spectrum or other. No middle ground and no balance for these poor souls. Sad fact is they have a hard time being spontaneous and fun because they have such a burden taking care of the world.
Caretaking is never about the other person.
It’s about wanting to feel needed
because you’re afraid you’re not wanted.