According to a recent poll found on ‘Answerville’ the average person can fall in love twice in a lifetime. Of the respondents, 39% said twice, 29% said three times, 18% said once and 14% said four times. Of course there is nothing about fitting into an average that actually makes one average. Each person’s life experience is different. Sad to think there are those who never fall in love. I can’t imagine such a life. Love finds some multiple times. With a little more than one in ten falling in love more than four times, I realize my life has been very rich to have known love double that. What first might appear as a prize has actually been the source of great pain. Relationships where there is mutual love are joyful to have and painful to lose. The single factor that contributed most to the failure of my relationships was codependency. I grieved each love lost; some still stir softly within on occasion. All were gifts.
It’s not forgetting that heals.