Male Codependence

BEING lost and without a solid, genuine sense of self
BEING depressed and without a sense of direction
BEING way too passive and without enough fire in your belly
BEING way too freakin nice and without depth and edge

FEELING victimized even though you have not been
FEELING overwhelmed with being too responsible for others
FEELING invisible, unappreciated and unloved
FEELING exhausted, over-powered and not very special

ACTING confused a lot, rarely showing your full competency
ACTING like you have it together on the outside while insecurity floods your soul
ACTING bitter, beaten down and without boundaries
ACTING like you are supposed to act versus just BEING who you are

HIDING from painful realities while numbing out on whatever numbs best
HIDING your real self so as to not offend anyone
HIDING your true feelings so as to not feel as rejected later
HIDING what you really need while hoping that someone will love you enough to guess

A LOSS of hope, a loss of direction, a loss of strength, a loss of self
A LOSS of intimacy, a loss of self-care time, a loss of your potential
A LOSS of true partnership in relationships, a loss of the ability to command respect
A LOSS of your uniqueness, a loss of your voice, a loss of your full color

AN OPPORTUNITY to re-invent yourself – how cool is that?
AN OPPORTUNITY to face off with your roots, your pain, the truth about you
AN OPPORTUNITY to learn how to expand your world into something bigger and better
AN OPPORTUNITY to learn to play, to laugh out loud, to celebrate and to dance a victory dance

“Codependency Is…” by Mark Smith

It is better to light one small candle
than to curse the darkness.
Confucius