Male Codependence

You’re a lot more right than you are wrong! One of the tendencies when I started working on my dysfunctions, was they were about all I could see. The focus I had to improve was healthy, but that narrow gaze saw little past my issues. For a time I kind of lost sight of a long successful career, loving friendships, a loving relationship with my son and brother, respect of my peers and so on. Further having accomplished a number of ‘bucket list” items got pushed out of view including learning to fly planes, visiting Machu Picchu and getting my photography published and recognized. When I got serious about recovery I fast became an expert (or at least it seemed so) on what was wrong with me. Granted, I had some serious things to work on like depression, PTSD and compulsions, but they did not occupy anywhere near the majority of my life. Real recovery began to move faster when I recognized what was right and good in my life, as well as what I needed to work on. Beginning to be able to see myself with truth and balance was necessary and took time.

Your vision will become clear
only when you can look
into your own heart.
Who looks outside, dreams;
who looks inside, awakens.
Carl Jung