Codependents usually come from troubled and dysfunctional families. Many will argue this is not true and often blame them self for their families shortcomings. Why? They have a tendency to blame the “self” for everything: not smart enough, not attractive enough, not athletic enough, not successful enough and simply not good enough. But if another criticizes a codependent it’s not unusual for him to get defensive or even very angry. And don’t try to compliment codependent men! Most will downplay praise or reject it outright. Accepting compliments and gifts is unusually difficult for them. Codependents reject themself, but fear rejection at the same time. Most everything is taken personally and many love being the victim (although they will vehemently deny it). Ultimately, they are trying to prove to others that they are good enough while to themselves feeling worthless and empty. Getting into and staying in recovery is the ONLY way codependency gets healthier!
Don’t wait until everything is just right.
It will never be perfect.
There will always be challenges, obstacles
and less than perfect conditions.
So what. Get started now.
Mark Victor Hansen