My life experience has included being married to two beautiful women and having relationships with a number of others who were highly physically attractive. Looking back I can see in all cases a sizeable part of my attraction was simply physical shape, texture, color and size. For a few, like the two I shared marriage with, beauty was a consistent characteristic on the outside and within. Then there were other women who, while beautiful on the outside, were somewhere between childish and spoiled to dark and sinister on the inside. For most men it is easy to get swept away by physical beauty and fall into a relationship because of it. Only much later when the gloss of newness begins to wear off does the blindness give way to clearer sight. Today I am cautious, even slow about coming to know a woman. Only by taking lots and lots of time can I come to know them from the inside out.
It is amazing
how complete is
the delusion that
beauty is goodness.
Leo Tolstoy
Male Codependence 
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