“You’re codependent if, when you die, someone else’s life flashes in front of your eyes” is a tongue-in-check phrase often spoken in recovery circles. With humor it points to one of the strongest roots of codependency: a relationship addiction. Caretaking a person important to us is healthy to a point. However, there is a level when the behavior of a caring individual can hinder or even prevent the recovery of an addict by enabling that person to continue their addiction. No matter if the addict is hooked on overeating, alcohol, drugs, sex, or whatever the caretaker, with the best of intentions, actually prevents the addict from the help they need. As hard as it is to do, “tough love” and letting the addict hit bottom is often the only way he or she can be saved.
The journey in between what you once were
and who you are now becoming
is where the dance of life really takes place.
Barbara De Angelis