Caretaking: The codependent is over committed, harried, pressured, feels safe when giving, but insecure when someone gives to him/her, goes out of her/his way to help others, and believes deep inside that other people are responsible for the way they are and will blame others for the “spot” they are in. Others make them feel the way they feel, they are victimized, angry, unappreciated, and used. Others are driving them crazy (Link). When I read those words for the first time my head nodded “yes” as I finished the paragraph. In my recognition that such is/has been true about me I know I am getting better. The denial is gone (mostly) and through accepting me as I am comes the ability to alter my future for the better. The unknown can’t be modified. Only what is recognized can be changed.
It is better to light one small candle
than to curse the darkness.