He often comes on strong at the start a of relationship. He wants love, but a part of him that is deathly afraid kicks in. As a child he felt the need to take care of one parent or fill in for another, such as in single parent families. Instead of being a carefree child, he thinks it is his duty to play the part of a little adult. Instead of being nurtured, he becomes the nurturer compelled to fulfill someone else’s needs. Consequently he turns into a commitment phobic who refuses to take a relationship beyond a certain level. He is the philanderer who never stays with just one person for long. “He” is a Love Avoidant and the ‘he’ is me.
To cheat oneself out of love
is the most terrible deception;
it is an eternal loss
for which there is no reparation,
either in time or in eternity.