To succeed, a relationship must have trust. Without ample trust, anxiety begins. When anxiety gets so strong one can’t stand it, blame arises. Then the great killer of relationships jumps in: BLAME. When we’re angry or upset at someone, blaming is the most common way to vent our feelings. We dump our junk onto on them and often stir up the past. The other person usually responds back the same way. Things escalate from there. It’s not easy, but stating feelings or complaints without anger, criticizing or accusing is best. The old adage of “counting to ten” before speaking when angry is good advice.
If you get upset when the toast burns,
what are you going to do
when your house burns down?