One strong symptom of codependence is when a man feels his life would be great if others would only do what he wants them to do. Trying to control others is CODEPENDENCY in capital letters. There is only possible way to influence change in others: change yourself. Then by your example others may be inspired to better themselves as they have witnessed you do, but it must be without any coercion. Ultimately every adult’s life is theirs to live as they choose, and should be respected no matter how misdirected their choices may appear.
You will become as small as your controlling desire;
as great as your dominant aspiration.