In the past I used anger as a way of pushing people away. Anyone I focused my angst on rarely knew what hit them. I never physically abused anyone, I just bellowed. To control people and keep them from getting too close I “scared them off” intentionally. Today I know my behavior came primarily from stuffed feelings about unresolved childhood issues I had buried deeply, but was still upset about. Once I was able to get a clear view of my behavior, working past it became doable. Questioning one’s behavior is often where getting better begins.
Anger is fear turned inside out.