Narcissists have a personality disorder that does not allow them to tell the truth to themselves. If they did tell the truth to themselves, it would go something like this: I hate myself. I can’t love anyone outside of myself in a meaningful manner because my emotions are infantile. I feel like an emotional infant and it’s always got to be me, me, me, and I know this, and I don’t like it, so I’m always mad at everyone around me, because I hate myself for being this way. PLUS, I am a brilliant person, a superior person, I’m talented, smart, gorgeous, so I deserve beautiful amazing people around me, and they should all adore me. But if they do, I’ll be mad at them because it will never be enough because everyone around me is a mere reflection of me. Narcissists don’t really see you for who you are. This does not mean they don’t understand you. It’s just that, even if they do understand you, they don’t care. The reason for this is, to a narcissist, you are there for them. You are there for them and you are a reflection of them. Since the narcissist already hates themselves, (too fat, too thin, too poor, too warty, too wrinkled, background too poor, father too abusive, whatever) they want you to be better than they are. But when you are, they judge you for liking them. It’s like the old Groucho Marx joke: I would never belong to a club that would have me as a member. If you think the narcissist is good enough for you, then you are not good enough for the narcissist.
http://www.ehow.com/how_4818960_not-love-naricissitic-personality-disorder.html
If you ignore me,
I will ignore you.
If you don’t start
the conversation,
we won’t talk.
If you don’t put
in the effort,
why should I?
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