Placing the needs and wants of others first to the exclusion of acknowledging one’s own needs
Difficulty expressing feelings to others
Worry about how others respond to one’s feelings and emotions
Fear of being hurt and/or rejected by others
Self-esteem dependent on approval by others
Often feeling not good enough or that one does not measure up
To a larger degree than women, men are frequently taught as children to “bear troubles, suck it up and move on”. Showing much emotion or feeling or asking for help is perceived by many as a weakness in a man. Feeling one thing and showing the world something different is a way of life for a codependent . That charade has a tendency to get old. When the pain to stay the same exceeds the pain to change, a man changes. I did. You can.
In overcoming codependency one of the responsibilities a person is charged with is to pass on what they have learned. This blog contains thoughts and feelings rooted in my journey of recovery from codependence so far. I share to remind myself of what I have come to believe with the hope doing that helps others.
There are many men who have denied themself for far too long. If you are tired of trying to be what everyone else wants you to be then your journey is at its beginning. You are not alone!