Many people involved in long-term relationships find that they have given up their dreams, plans and future to “fit” into someone else’s. The difficulty in breaking up often stems from people forgetting how to be self-sufficient. This creates a fear of loss and insecurity, which fuels the desire to keep unhealthy relationships together. Dennis Neder, author of “Being a Man in a Woman’s World” says that we need to understand that we’re alone throughout our entire lives — even when we’re with someone else. “It’s not a bad thing,” says Dr. Neder, “in fact, it is quite freeing for most people.” Everyone experiences low points in their relationships. That’s normal and most couples work through these times. While the experts say there are no formulas for deciding when to break up, there are signs to watch for. If you experience more than a few consistently over a long period, it’s probably time to move on: You’re no longer getting what you want or need from the relationship. Let’s face it. If you’re not happy, chances are your partner isn’t either. You can no longer communicate with your partner. Everyone has different communication styles, says Laurie Moore, Ph.D., author of Creative Intimacy and Choosing a Life Mate Wisely. “However, you don’t want to spend all of your time in the relationship trying to communicate with each other. It’s just too much work. You no longer look forward to spending time alone with your partner. You may still have a good sex life, but you don’t talk to your partner. You prefer to spend time with other people to avoid being alone together. http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/advice/when-is-it-time-to-leave-the-relationship.htm
At some point of your life,
you will become aware
that some people
can stay in your heart
but not in your life.
Anonymous
