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How You Talk To Yourself

Posted by James Browning on February 12, 2013
Posted in: Accurate self-view, Appropriate Behavior, Denial. Tagged: changing habits, seeing myself clearly, worrying too much.

yes_no_manKnowing how to love yourself is extremely important. Self love is at the very core of wellbeing, joy, self-empowerment, and your ability to create and enjoy the kind of life you want. You cannot enjoy happiness if you are not at peace with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have. Not knowing how to love yourself can be severely debilitating. At the very least, you’re plagued by indecision and self-doubt. In more intense cases there is depression and self-hatred, which cripples you in every area of your life. The self-focused negativity cuts you off from your connection to your Life Force. Until you know how to love yourself there will be an inner war going on that divides your energy and sabotages your efforts to move toward happiness. Besides that, if you lack your own love you attract people and circumstances that mirror your negative beliefs and feelings about yourself. We draw to us the manifestations of what we FEEL. So, in order for you to draw in loving people and circumstances, you need to know how to love yourself first. To start building self-esteem, first listen to how you talk to yourself. You first have to be aware of a situation before you can change it. Do any of these thoughts sound familiar? “There is something wrong with me. I’m really messed up.” “I’m bad.” “It’s all my fault.” “I’m incompetent. I don’t know what I’m doing.” “I’m not (good, smart, attractive, rich, etc.) enough.” “I’m not as (good, smart, attractive, successful, etc.) as that person.” Until you learn how to love yourself, this is how you cripple yourself so that you can’t move forward or go after the things you want. http://www.wellbeingalignment.com/how-to-love-yourself.html

My primary relationship
is with myself:
all others are mirrors of it.
Shakti Gawain

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