No one makes you feel; instead, people’s actions trigger the cascade of internal reactions resulting in emotions that trigger your accustomed behavioral response. When you accept this truth, you accept responsibility for yourself: for your emotional state and your behavior. What is so amazing about this fact is that the same is true for falling in love. When you are ‘in love,’ the emotional state that occurs when you are together or when you think of your mate is what feels so good. YOU are responsible for this emotional state; not your partner! So whether you experience anger, jealousy, love, sadness, joy or happiness, the emotion comes from within. It’s all about you, honey. What this means is that YOU are in control. YOU are in the driver’s seat. What’s the key to success? Stop blaming other people or circumstances for your emotional state and start taking charge.
Whenever you experience some emotion,
Breathe to regain control.
Soak it in, then follow these three steps:
- Identify the emotion. What are you feeling?
- Behind the emotion is a need. What do you need in this moment? What will be of greatest value to you right now?
- Take action to meet your need.
Julie Donley, RN http://nurturingyoursuccessblog.com/your-emotions-are-your-responsibility/
Our thoughts dictate how we feel;
so it is important to recognize
that we are as we think we are