“You made me feel…” “I feel angry when you do…” Is it possible that I have that much power over you to cause your body to react to what I do or say? What you feel is about you. When you are with someone, you may think they make you feel a certain way. When you say that others make you feel a certain way, you give away your power to some outside force. You blame another for what you feel and how you think. The reality is that no one can make you feel anything. YOU are responsible for your emotions – and for what you DO with those emotions. Your thoughts (about an event, what someone does, etc.) trigger a neurological response that sends chemicals through your brain which then causes an emotional response. And it is this emotional response that we act upon. These are often called “emotional buttons”. Often our emotional responses are so intense and have been repeated so often that they have become ‘habits’ which means that every time that trigger occurs – someone raises their voice, uses a certain tone, behaves in a particular way – this neurological reaction occurs automatically and without your conscious awareness. And your behavioral response occurs automatically too, which means you may behave in ways you’re not proud of but feel as though you cannot control it. The emotional response occurs, triggering the behavioral response, and you play out this dynamic that becomes a ‘way of being’. You think this is just who you are. But it’s not; it’s how you behave. Julie Donley, RN http://nurturingyoursuccessblog.com/your-emotions-are-your-responsibility/
No one makes you feel anything.
It is how you react and respond
that determines your emotions.