- Non-Communication - when there is clearly something problematic to discuss
- Avoiding/Ignoring – when you are so angry that you feel you cannot speak calmly
- Evading problems and issues - burying an angry head in the sand
- Procrastinating - intentionally putting off important tasks for less important ones
- Obstructing – deliberately stalling or preventing an event or process of change
- Fear of Competition – avoiding situations where one party will be seen as better at something
- Ambiguity - being cryptic, unclear, not fully engaging in conversations
- Sulking - being silent, morose, sullen and resentful in order to get attention or sympathy.
- Chronic Lateness – a way to put you in control over others and their expectations
- Chronic Forgetting – shows a blatant disrespect and disregard for others to punish in some way
- Fear of Intimacy – trust issues with passive aggressive people and guarding against becoming too intimately involved or attached will be a way for them to feel in control of the relationship
- Making Excuses – always coming up with reasons for not doing things
- Victimization – unable to look at their own part in a situation will turn the tables to become the victim and will behave like one
- Self-Pity – the poor me scenario
- Blaming - rather than being able to take responsibility for your own actions or being able to take an objective view of the situation as a whole.
- Withholding - usual behaviours or roles (example sex, cooking and cleaning or making cups of tea, running a bath etc.) all to reinforce an already unclear message to the other party
- Learned Helplessness – where a person continually acts like they can’t help themselves – deliberately doing a poor job of something for which they are often explicitly responsible
Andrea Harrn, http://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/counsellor-articles/what-is-passive-aggressive-behaviour
The greatest challenge in life
is discovering who you really are
and second thing is
being happy with what you find.
Tanya Bianco
